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Why Authenticity Matters: Especially in Life and Leadership

Thinking about authenticity, it is important to remember why it matters and what is important. As a person you should remain true to values in the face of external pressures and expectations, and still be able to think and behave a certain way. When you come from an authentic place, it is less likely you will allow the external pressures to change who you really are. True happiness comes from a place where you know what you think and feel and even though you are not perfect, you have grace enough to share form a place of compassion and authenticity.
Authenticity is not just about honesty or consistency; it transcends those qualities. When you are authentic, you are not acting, you are in alignment with your true self, your core values, and your unique personality. It can be very hard under pressure to remain authentic, yet it’s vital, especially when you are in roles of leadership, in the workplace, in your home and in your heart.
Authenticity involves being true to yourself and understanding what motivates you, moves you and helps you find your passion. It’s about knowing what you like, how your emotions flow, and your abilities. When you act congruently with this self-knowledge, you’re being authentic.
While authenticity is about sharing truths, it really goes deeper than this. Sometimes, we withhold certain things in, without intending to be holding back, yet sometimes if we cannot reveal everything, it does not always mean we are not authentic, it can mealy mean for underlying reasons, there is something that may hold us back, perhaps judgment, fear, or concern that we may be misunderstood. When we can’t be authentic, it creates issues. Internally and externally.
Striving to be authentic doesn’t mean you’re being your true self all the time; it means aligning your actions to match what you are doing and saying as well as that you will lead with integrity when you are in that role.
In toxic environments, it’s hard to be authentic and when leaders are not living authenticity, it can result in fear and stress. When you help others overcome fears and express vulnerabilities. it helps liberate one from pretense and allows one to embrace imperfections. Not all leaders encompass this trait, and it can become quite dicey when leaders do not strive for authenticity and do not allow those under them to be authentic as well.
Authenticity comes from knowing what’s important to you and remaining true to those values despite being pressured or feeling like you cannot meet the requirements by being put in situations where you are to question your own morals and values. Toxic people create toxic environments, and anyone who does not allow authenticity and harness how valuable it can be in productivity, families and work relations, will never succeed as a leader.
When you navigate from an authentic place, you’re truer to who you are, have strong self-awareness and create a better environment. You will be happier and so will the others around you.
In essence, authenticity isn’t about perfection; it’s about embracing your genuine self, flaws and all. It can be hard, I understand. Self-love can be hard, and self-sabotage can get the best of all of us, yet it all comes back to authenticity. Authenticity is important and its vital in how we think about ourselves, those around us and how we go forth in the world. Be authentic, your life will be a lot better because of it.

Along the way, I will continue planting positive seeds, sharing through my personal blog and featuring all of my favorite people, places and things! I hope you will follow along! Stay connected at thoughtfulseedproject.com and of course, if you need help writing, reach out! Thought of the Day: Authenticity requires vulnerability, transparency and integrity.

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Kindness Matters & We Can Do Better

Being kind does not have to be difficult and even though being kind can be misunderstood as a weakness the reality is that true kindness is a powerful and noble trait that can have a powerful impact on both the giver and the recipient. We can be kind in everyday life and once one can fully understand the power of kindness, it can be realized how much it creates a difference in another’s life and ours.

Kindness is not just about being nice or polite; it goes much deeper than moments of interactions. True kindness stems from empathy, compassion, and a genuine desire to make a positive difference in someone else’s life. It involves putting aside personal biases and judgments to truly connect with others on a human level. Compassion and empathy towards others can be extremely difficult for many to fully understand. Empathy allows you to understand and share the feelings of another person, while compassion pushes you to take action to alleviate another’s suffering or support them in times of need. When one is fully able to set aside their own opinions to help and uplift others, they can fully experience the impact of genuine kindness.

When we are kind, it can have a ripple effect that extends far beyond the initial gesture. When we are authentically kind, it can inspire others to do the same, creating a chain reaction of positivity and goodness. Small acts of kindness can brighten someone’s day, restore their faith in humanity, and create lasting connections based on mutual respect and understanding.

Sometimes it can feel like we live in a world that favor’s strength over sensitivity, and that kindness can be lost. Being genuinely kind in all your interactions, you not only uplift those around you but also contribute to building a more compassionate and empathetic society. Remember, true kindness is a greater reflection of your inner strength and humanity and if someone tells you differently, then it may be them who suffers from the ability to feel empathy and compassion.

What I have learned is that the best thing we can do is to try and understand others and where they are coming from and listen and feel their story. Not everyone will do this, yet when we are genuinely kind, we will and sometimes just listening, allows us to better reflect on ourselves and learn how to be a better person. Kindness does matter and we can all do better and even if someone deflects kindness, remember to keep your head up, you tried and sometimes that’s all you can do.

Along the way, I will continue planting positive seeds, sharing through my personal blog and featuring all of my favorite people, places and things! I hope you will follow along! Stay connected at thoughtfulseedproject.com and of course, if you need help writing, reach out! Thought of the Day: Even if being kind means standing alone, be kind anyways.
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The Gift of Celebrating National Ag Day

Today is National Ag Day, a day that recognizes the vital contributions of agriculture that add to the quality of life. Today and always, I feel that it is important to share the personal stories of farmers and their dedication to their land and livelihoods. It is very important to take the opportunity to celebrate their hard work, resilience and the innovation of those who contribute to our agricultural heritage. Farm heritage is like a tapestry woven from threads of the past. It encompasses the traditions, practices and stories that connect farmers to their land planting seeds, tending to livestock, and reaping the harvests. It’s a tribute to their resilience and dedication. Their perseverance and never give up attitudes show dedication to working long hours and when it’s time to tend to the crops or animals. There is not always a choice in the matter, when the sun shines or the rain stops, a farmer uses every minute staying awake so they can get the work done.
Farmers have a duty to the earth, and often see themselves as the custodians of the land, working hard with hope that the sweat and long hours will return high yields. Each morning brings a new day, and farmers do a different dance, one of rhythm—planting seeds in the spring, from battling summer’s heat, and harvesting autumn’s golden bounty. Their labor is a sacred choreography as they work hard to honor the legacy of ancestors and the farming family before them. It seems as though they honor those before them who once tilled the same fields, pleaded for rain and prayed for bountiful crops.
A farmer has a deep tendency to check the weather in the sense that the corn whispers secrets to the sun and as they watch as the wheat bows in reverence to the wind. They find themselves watching their livestock graze, taking each breath, praying for another year that will produce and flourish. Farmers work hard because they are partners in resilience and dealing with life like overcoming a damaged crop or stubborn soil. They rise before dawn, boots quickly laced, with their rough hands and mend fences, fix broken machinery, help wherever they can and stretch their days like the earth’s horizon so they can cradle enough work into a day, so they may be able to sleep, knowing they have done their best to provide for those they love. There is constant uncertainty, as markets sway, a close eye on the weather, they bounce from spring flooding to summer drought, yet they persist, balancing on the tight rope of uncertainty, holding their faith close to them, not knowing what the unseen future has in store for them. Farmers walk a solitary path, and when the first crop starts to produce or the livestock is prepared for market, a farmer takes a deep sigh of relief, knowing that the hustle and bustle from one season to the next, the harvest can be rich in delight, and they have produced from the very land generations before them did. It’s the taste of triumph, it’s those moments that make all the blood, sweat and tears worth the work. The missed opportunities, the sacrifices they have made to grow and produce for the world consumer needs, may they realize their value and importance and place in this world.
Farming is not only hard work, but it demands resilience, courage and consistency and a sense of humor to face the crazy weather, stubborn machinery and the highs and lows of the market. There is a lot of guess work involve and remembrance of asking oneself, “what would dad do, or grandpa or the one who farmed long before me.” Farmers do not just work hard for themselves, they work hard and put in all the sweat soaked hours because they are helping to transform the earth and produce off it and because maybe just one day, like they looked up to those before them, someone else will look up to them and proudly say, “it was all because of a farmer.”
I am proud to say that I am married to a protector of the earth, a farmer who works up from dawn to dusk and takes great pride in the work he does. He is the first one to lend a hand when someone is in need and never takes the easy way out, he does the work and puts in the time and like so many other farmers, deserves the respect for all he does to provide for others. Being a farmer can be a thankless job and though we should every day, my hope is that especially today, on National Ag Day, like me, you will thank a farmer.

Along the way, I will continue planting positive seeds, sharing through my personal blog and featuring all of my favorite people, places and things! I hope you will follow along! Stay connected at thoughtfulseedproject.com and of course, if you need help writing, reach out!

Thought of the Day: “The farmer has to be an optimist, or he wouldn’t still be a farmer.” Will Rogers

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It’s Just A Sunday Cake

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Follow Along, Planting Seeds of Inspiration and Hope

Krista Sobieski Thoughtful Seed Project -Founder Unimaginable Hope -FounderAs long as I can remember, I have been captivated by written words and the value in capturing the feeling or essence of an emotion through writing. To me there is something behind reading or hearing something that is well written. Something as simple as a short poem, to a movie script, good book, or a well-drafted and executed speech, the combination of words and thoughts that are used, can impact the way the reader or listener feels. Thoughtful, well written and documented thoughts having meaning behind them. When something is written well, it can make us feel good, bad, happy, sad, frightened or many different ways. The concept of writing is all around us and while I admit I am not always the first one to be able to execute the exact right words on the spot, in a moment’s notice, if you provide me time to write it out, I will help find a way to put words together that will help create the emotion and feeling that will impact those reading or listening.

The past year has been one of forced change and growth and I am finally excited to be focusing more on one of my passions, WRITING! My first book, Giving into Hope will be released in May of 2024 and with that book, I have been selected to be part of The Voices of 100 Women through She Rises Studios and will be featured on Fenix TV! There is only more good news to come from this opportunity! You won’t want to miss it!

I have enjoyed working as a freelance writer helping individuals and businesses with website copy, professional documents, writing feature articles and newsletters and now I am ready to take it to the next level! On a small scale, this little business, Thoughtful Seed Project, stated in 2016 and has allowed me keep writing and making a little extra money for the enjoyment of it and now, I am finally excited to have the opportunity to grow this business! I am now available for all your writing needs on a small and large scale and in the coming weeks will be updating my website and including my services and how I can take the written word and help it impact you or your business in a positive way!

Along the way, I will continue planting positive seeds, sharing through my personal blog and featuring all of my favorite people, places and things! I hope you will follow along! Stay connected at thoughtfulseedproject.com and of course, if you need help writing, reach out!

Thought of the day: “Nothing is impossible. The word itself says, ‘I’m Possible.” Audrey Hepburn.

 

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Welcome to my Blog…

The stories in our lives capture the moments and memories that help shape us, inspire us and form us. Everyone has a story and everyone has a story to be told. Some stories are funny, some are sad, some are inspiring and some stories are unbelievable. Regardless if we realize it, our own stories and those of others impact our lives.

 

I have a story and although you may not know it all, I hope the parts I have shared and will continue to share have or will inspire someone else, have or will help someone else or maybe even make them laugh and at times even force them to look at life and the space around them differently.

 

Stories are meant to be told and there is nothing better than a good story. A book, an article or even a simple blog post can share a story and even if it has taken me some time to figure out exactly how I want to use the Thoughtful Seed Project, yet all along, my vision has been there, it was just clouded by my own insecurities of sharing and fear of judgment. Trust me though, once you hit a certain time in life, you will start to let that go and just live. It’s a work in progress and I am learning that and sharing this is the first step in moving forward!

 

It’s simple. Sharing my personal stories and sharing those of others does matter and it’s the stories of ordinary and extraordinary people, places and things that make us think, make us laugh and make us cry. Stories can change lives and can give hope, stories can make us see the sun on a cloudy day and make us feel deep in our soul and even ignite a spark to start a fire that burns deep inside of us to live fully content. Stories impact us all in different ways. 

 

Welcome to the Thoughtful Seed Project, my blog, my project and find this invitation to follow along. They will be the stories that make up my life, the stories of my favorite people, the stories of my favorite places and businesses and the ideas and thoughts that fill my mind. Follow this blog as I use my gift of writing to capture and share the stories all around us. 

 

What’s my hope? My hope is to use the Thoughtful Seed Project to bring more positive vibes to this life. For me this is the first step in planting my own seed, with the dream of one day becoming a published author. A great writing mentor once told me that the only way you become a good writer, logically, is to take the first step and in her words she would say, “just write and write a little everyday!”While I can’t promise I will post everyday, to be realistic, I can write everyday, and I can make a commitment to share stories that inspire, thoughts that provoke and little tidbits of everything in this world that amazes me and make a conscience  effort to continually plant Thoughtful Seeds in all who join this journey and read along as I write! Let’s go…there’s a lot to be shared! 

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The Moments Matter

      Having a high school student who is currently a senior in the Class of 2021 during the pandemic, there has been a lot of discussion from students, teachers, parents and administrations regarding the argument of schools and if they should be having in-person classes or learning from home and if they are in session, should they be allowing extra curricular activities or be eliminating them. 

       Everyone has their own opinion and their own thoughts and students have been in the middle of the conversations and school leaders and staff, along with parents have been forced to put the kids in the middle, trying to make sense of what is best for everyone to keep them safe from a virus, with continuing changing information, that’s been hard to keep up with. 

      It’s been exhausting, overwhelming and probably keeps almost every parent wondering if they are doing the right thing, whatever their decision has been for their student when there is the option to send their student to school or allow them to participate in activities in and after school.

      My children have been attending school in-person since school started in the fall and while I know it does not work for every school in every district, I am delighted that they have this opportunity. I am thankful for the school staff who have been putting in extra effort so my kids can attend school and I am grateful that my kids can participate in extracurricular activities, even if we have to do it with precautions. Perhaps some might think I say that selfishly but there is nothing intended selfish about it. As humans, it is healthy to have contact with others, routines that help guide us and enjoyment in being part of groups and events. When the pandemic rolled in with a vengeance last spring, so many of us, even as adults were at a loss in how to navigate forward with so many of our social connections halted. It was stressful, hard and scary. As a family we took precautions, we were playing it safe as we continued to learn about this virus and what it meant if one of us became ill. We were sometimes confused about the information coming out, but we tried to navigate as a family and tried to find things to keep our lives normal. It was hard but not impossible. 

       Having active kids involved in athletics and 4H and community service, it was a change to just sit and be still and I will admit, it wasn’t all bad. We are a close family but we found ourselves together even more. Slowly the kids returned to some activities but few were offered. Still we found a few that fit and we took our chance, having the kids participate. Still taking precaution but being interactive because it was healthy for us to be active. It was depressing laying dormant. Doing nothing was affecting our family and disappointing our spirits. We needed some activity and found some to help and slowly eased into some interactive activities that worked for us. It was great and the kids were back in rhythm and the smiles slowly came back and laughter was in the air. We were confident it was good for our kids. We didn’t dismiss the virus but we lived a little.

       When school started, we watched as many districts and communities remained closed, canceled athletics and extracurricular activities and shut down to protect their students and staff. It was painful and my heart broke for students, parents and staff who were in limbo trying to make sense of it all. It still is and I know at any moment anything can change. It’s scary, yet I will admit, I am so grateful that even though nothing has been normal about this school year, my senior has had the chance to participate in athletics and am glad that I am in a district that took a chance. It hasn’t been perfect and every day I still wonder if it’s right. Nobody really knows and I try not to be selfish. I want to watch my senior experience all those moments that they should have in their last year of high school and as the school year gets closer to graduation, I just remain hopeful and thankful that my son still had and has the chance to be involved and in-person, with people. 

     Then I wonder how it has affected him and what these final moments mean. Do they really matter. He wrapped up his final basketball game the other night. The last time he would take court as a high school basketball player. It wasn’t a winning season, far from it, but the players made the best of it knowing there were many student athletes who never got a season. The day after, he shared something with me and it made me realize how much these senior moments do matter. How much the connections mean and how much being together with a “team” (whatever that means to each person) really does matter. He lost one of his best friends when they were 12, a friend he shared in sports with and in their graduation year, he is thought of more. To many, it may just be another sports season and in light of it, while we know it’s not the end of the world if they don’t play, reading his words made me realize how many emotions are behind our youth and how powerful his feelings are. I am grateful that my son DID get to play school sports this year and I am forever thankful for the opportunity he had. Nothing has been perfect and even at times I have found myself frustrated, but it has been worth it. Worth it to have these moments and feel the power behind these words. Thank you to those who have given my kids opportunity this year and helped them find some joy during a pandemic. The memories will always be worth it and we could not have had them without someone realizing how important it has been to have our kids connected. These words remind us of it. 

What my son wrote: 

As I walked off the court during my final basketball game of my career, I took one last look at the court and many emotions and memories ran through my mind and made it even harder to let go of the sport of basketball…

Ever since I was little, basketball has made me feel some type of way. Some of the emotions are bad, but that’s what made the good ones feel 10 times better.

That feeling of losing my first playoff game by 5.That feeling of missing the last second shot to give my team the lead. That feeling of playing bad in the last minutes losing. That feeling of not being able to make a shot all game and never being able to get anything going. 

That feeling of being on the court, with the best teammates I could ever ask for. That feeling of wearing #22 on my front and back and knowing that when I take the court, I AM NEVER ALONE. That feeling of sinking the game winning free throws with 0.1 seconds on the clock to cap off the game of my life. That feeling of hitting a couple threes in a row and the student section going crazy. That feeling of coming off the court and hugging my coaches and teammates after beating our rival on senior night. 

Throughout all the ups and downs of my career. I would never change anything about my career. It’s been one hell of a ride and all I’ve got to say is thank you!

The moments have mattered. They are important and being in school and with other students has been important and I am glad my kids district took a chance and faced the pandemic with precaution but still gave our kids and our seniors some moments. I am happy I could enjoy some of these moments too. They are now our memories that really matter. 

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Be the Sunshine, Be Kind

It really is amazing to think about how the weather can play such a vital role in our daily lives. If we arise to see the sun, the warmth of the rays of sunshine can instantly set our mood and if it’s raining it can make us feel a little dreary and a tad bit gloomy as we set foot out the door to go about our day. The weather can be a lot like people and in some ways, we can choose to find some sunshine around us or be burdened with storms that move in along the way. Like the weather, if we allow them to, other people can play a large role in how we see ourselves and how we react in dealing with others.

Judgement and criticism are some of the clouds that can follow us and make us inferior to the world around us and second guess our own intentions. While constructive criticism can be helpful, the wrong kind of criticism can lead to self-doubt and blame. When we are judged unfairly it can really  break our confidence and cause great distress. Judgement, when done negatively can be like a rain cloud on a stormy day. Every time  you don’t have your umbrella, it sneaks up on you, drenching you with despair  and weakness.

Life can be hard and how we treat each other and how we react when around each is so important. While life is not meant to be sugar coated and there are times when we need to face the facts and the truth, how we talk to each other, what tone we use and how we view each other is extremely important in our social and professional mingling. Think about yourself, would you rather we a ray of sunshine or a cloud on a stormy day?

While a small dose of reality never hurts anyone, just like a little rain helps a plant grow, it’s the sun that must come out to pull the plant upward and humans can react the same way when they are given the gift of hope through the kindness of another, they, just like a plant can flourish and grow. I recently listened to a story shared by one of my high school classmates regarding concern for human kindness and compassion as she was entering a store and found an elderly man sitting on a bench in the hot summer sun, who was disoriented and confused. When she approached  a store clerk for help, she was shunned for wanting to help the man because he was known to be a drunk man who apparently had no hope. This clerk judged the man and rather than getting him help and to safety, my classmate shared her disgust on how this man could have been left there to die. She was concerned and questions if this is how ugly the world has become.

I am sure at some time in our lives we have all been guilty of judgement and criticism, and some of us may have felt sorry for the man, but how many of us would have stepped in to help without understanding his story. Many of us may have walked away, not understanding alcoholism is a disease. This male had evidently lost the will to fight for a healthier life, and that clerk was contributing to the ugly world rather than giving hope for a brighter tomorrow. Something to think about. There are others who give hope, radiate good vibes and do good by people, without understanding their story. It gives us a lot to think about in how we treat others, how we let others treat us and how we move forward each day.  Each of us has an obligation to make a difference, for ourselves, for others and for the world around us. It all just starts with one action a day. 

Be kind, be thoughtful and plant a Thoughtful Seed today!

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