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Celebrating 100 years young

Barbara as a baby.
Barbara as a young mother.
Barbara with her husband Frank.
Barbara celebrates turning 100.

On Saturday, April 19, 1924 a baby girl, Barbara was born to Bridget and Isadore Bednarek. She grew up on a family farm, south of Berlin in Central Wisconsin and later married Frank Kurczek and now will celebrate becoming Berlin’s latest centenarian as she turns 100 years old today.
Today Barbara Kurczek is celebrating her 100th Birthday. As friends and family have already started to stop by, to recognize her longevity of life, it’s all the good memories that bring her joy and keep a smile on her face.
Accompanied by her sister Julie and daughter Jean on this particular day, it was the laughter and continuous chatter of the trio that had Barbara fondly remembering her life.
She recalled the wonderful seamstress her mother was.
“Mother made everything and we were always very well dressed,” she said, “Mother was also a wonderful cook.”
Barbara attended Springbrook School along with St. Michael’s Catholic School through eighth grade. To get to school, they would often go to the Jones farm, and then get a ride from them.
She was the valedictorian of the 1937 eighth grade class.
“I was always the smart one and not shy,” she said. She attended Green Lake High School, as at the time, her parents thought the school would be much better for her, as a smaller franchise.
She was a cheerleader and also reigned as the Green Lake County Dairy Queen for two years in a row.
“I just recall wanting to win because there was another girl I really didn’t want to win,” she said, “So I guess at the time, it made me really happy.”
She recalled meeting her husband Frank at a dance in Princeton and how he stood out.
“He was in the service and he was in his military uniform,” she said, “He was the only one there in a uniform and he grabbed my eye, you know, so I thought I better grab on to him, and the rest is history!”
The couple was wed at St. Michael’s Catholic Church in Berlin on September 2, 1944. They welcomed five children to their family; Frank, known as “Chippie”, John, Jane, Jean Ann and Jim.
Remembering the downtown streets of Berlin, the meat market, with the delicious ring bologna and going to the bakery, Barbara shared that her mother would always remind her to ask, “is the bakery fresh?”
“Berlin had a lot of quality stores, and there were elegant, high end shops, dress stores and a hat maker too,” said Kurczek.
Barbara’s husband Frank worked for the Sears store for 35 years. Along with her daughter, they fondly remembered the excitement they shared going shopping for Easter bonnets, white gloves and all the accessories.
“It was a different time, after a Holy Day mass, it was a big treat to get a sweet roll,” she said.
Reminiscing of the past, the family laughed about a dog, a large St. Bernard the family had and how it looked like a lion.
“He weighed over 135 pounds and when we were going to send him by my brother Tom to Montana, the people at the airport saw him and said they couldn’t ship lions,” she laughed.
She remembered the days of milk delivery and when all food was made from scratch. The first time she made a cake mix from a box, she really didn’t like it, though thought about it, as having five kids, the convenience of using the mixes, might have been a good idea.
Over her lifetime she has witnessed many things and although a lot has changed, she feels like it was gradual and she simply learned to grow with the times. Like anyone, there have been ups and downs in her life, though she believes there have been many more ups. She never wanted to be a person who wanted pity or felt like, “poor me,” as she wanted to enjoy life.
Kurczek is someone who has always had a little spunk in her step. She has enjoyed the fun times with family and friends, traveled around, hosted dinner parties and bridge club and savored being active. Though she stayed home with her family, she did obtain her CNA license and remembered going to Clem’s to celebrate with the other nurses and also remembered her 80th birthday party there, too.
In her life and as time moves on, she has followed this thought, “One day at a time, yesterday is gone, look back for the good memories, yet just keep stepping forward.”
She has learned to accept life for what it is, as well as understand that all people are different.
“You just have to accept them and how things are and move on,” she said.
She’s been thinking about turning 100 over the past couple years and now that the time has arrived, she decided she really didn’t want a big party.
She looks forward to the time with those who stop by for a visit and think of all the memories that have made her life feel like she’s, “living 100 years young!”
Happy 100th Birthday Barbara Kurczek. Thank you sharing your life, your words of wisdom and may you enjoy everyday going forward!

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Why Authenticity Matters: Especially in Life and Leadership

Thinking about authenticity, it is important to remember why it matters and what is important. As a person you should remain true to values in the face of external pressures and expectations, and still be able to think and behave a certain way. When you come from an authentic place, it is less likely you will allow the external pressures to change who you really are. True happiness comes from a place where you know what you think and feel and even though you are not perfect, you have grace enough to share form a place of compassion and authenticity.
Authenticity is not just about honesty or consistency; it transcends those qualities. When you are authentic, you are not acting, you are in alignment with your true self, your core values, and your unique personality. It can be very hard under pressure to remain authentic, yet it’s vital, especially when you are in roles of leadership, in the workplace, in your home and in your heart.
Authenticity involves being true to yourself and understanding what motivates you, moves you and helps you find your passion. It’s about knowing what you like, how your emotions flow, and your abilities. When you act congruently with this self-knowledge, you’re being authentic.
While authenticity is about sharing truths, it really goes deeper than this. Sometimes, we withhold certain things in, without intending to be holding back, yet sometimes if we cannot reveal everything, it does not always mean we are not authentic, it can mealy mean for underlying reasons, there is something that may hold us back, perhaps judgment, fear, or concern that we may be misunderstood. When we can’t be authentic, it creates issues. Internally and externally.
Striving to be authentic doesn’t mean you’re being your true self all the time; it means aligning your actions to match what you are doing and saying as well as that you will lead with integrity when you are in that role.
In toxic environments, it’s hard to be authentic and when leaders are not living authenticity, it can result in fear and stress. When you help others overcome fears and express vulnerabilities. it helps liberate one from pretense and allows one to embrace imperfections. Not all leaders encompass this trait, and it can become quite dicey when leaders do not strive for authenticity and do not allow those under them to be authentic as well.
Authenticity comes from knowing what’s important to you and remaining true to those values despite being pressured or feeling like you cannot meet the requirements by being put in situations where you are to question your own morals and values. Toxic people create toxic environments, and anyone who does not allow authenticity and harness how valuable it can be in productivity, families and work relations, will never succeed as a leader.
When you navigate from an authentic place, you’re truer to who you are, have strong self-awareness and create a better environment. You will be happier and so will the others around you.
In essence, authenticity isn’t about perfection; it’s about embracing your genuine self, flaws and all. It can be hard, I understand. Self-love can be hard, and self-sabotage can get the best of all of us, yet it all comes back to authenticity. Authenticity is important and its vital in how we think about ourselves, those around us and how we go forth in the world. Be authentic, your life will be a lot better because of it.

Along the way, I will continue planting positive seeds, sharing through my personal blog and featuring all of my favorite people, places and things! I hope you will follow along! Stay connected at thoughtfulseedproject.com and of course, if you need help writing, reach out! Thought of the Day: Authenticity requires vulnerability, transparency and integrity.

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The Gift of Celebrating National Ag Day

Today is National Ag Day, a day that recognizes the vital contributions of agriculture that add to the quality of life. Today and always, I feel that it is important to share the personal stories of farmers and their dedication to their land and livelihoods. It is very important to take the opportunity to celebrate their hard work, resilience and the innovation of those who contribute to our agricultural heritage. Farm heritage is like a tapestry woven from threads of the past. It encompasses the traditions, practices and stories that connect farmers to their land planting seeds, tending to livestock, and reaping the harvests. It’s a tribute to their resilience and dedication. Their perseverance and never give up attitudes show dedication to working long hours and when it’s time to tend to the crops or animals. There is not always a choice in the matter, when the sun shines or the rain stops, a farmer uses every minute staying awake so they can get the work done.
Farmers have a duty to the earth, and often see themselves as the custodians of the land, working hard with hope that the sweat and long hours will return high yields. Each morning brings a new day, and farmers do a different dance, one of rhythm—planting seeds in the spring, from battling summer’s heat, and harvesting autumn’s golden bounty. Their labor is a sacred choreography as they work hard to honor the legacy of ancestors and the farming family before them. It seems as though they honor those before them who once tilled the same fields, pleaded for rain and prayed for bountiful crops.
A farmer has a deep tendency to check the weather in the sense that the corn whispers secrets to the sun and as they watch as the wheat bows in reverence to the wind. They find themselves watching their livestock graze, taking each breath, praying for another year that will produce and flourish. Farmers work hard because they are partners in resilience and dealing with life like overcoming a damaged crop or stubborn soil. They rise before dawn, boots quickly laced, with their rough hands and mend fences, fix broken machinery, help wherever they can and stretch their days like the earth’s horizon so they can cradle enough work into a day, so they may be able to sleep, knowing they have done their best to provide for those they love. There is constant uncertainty, as markets sway, a close eye on the weather, they bounce from spring flooding to summer drought, yet they persist, balancing on the tight rope of uncertainty, holding their faith close to them, not knowing what the unseen future has in store for them. Farmers walk a solitary path, and when the first crop starts to produce or the livestock is prepared for market, a farmer takes a deep sigh of relief, knowing that the hustle and bustle from one season to the next, the harvest can be rich in delight, and they have produced from the very land generations before them did. It’s the taste of triumph, it’s those moments that make all the blood, sweat and tears worth the work. The missed opportunities, the sacrifices they have made to grow and produce for the world consumer needs, may they realize their value and importance and place in this world.
Farming is not only hard work, but it demands resilience, courage and consistency and a sense of humor to face the crazy weather, stubborn machinery and the highs and lows of the market. There is a lot of guess work involve and remembrance of asking oneself, “what would dad do, or grandpa or the one who farmed long before me.” Farmers do not just work hard for themselves, they work hard and put in all the sweat soaked hours because they are helping to transform the earth and produce off it and because maybe just one day, like they looked up to those before them, someone else will look up to them and proudly say, “it was all because of a farmer.”
I am proud to say that I am married to a protector of the earth, a farmer who works up from dawn to dusk and takes great pride in the work he does. He is the first one to lend a hand when someone is in need and never takes the easy way out, he does the work and puts in the time and like so many other farmers, deserves the respect for all he does to provide for others. Being a farmer can be a thankless job and though we should every day, my hope is that especially today, on National Ag Day, like me, you will thank a farmer.

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Thought of the Day: “The farmer has to be an optimist, or he wouldn’t still be a farmer.” Will Rogers